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Offline Bataar

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Re: Suffering from loneliness
« Reply #165 on: May 29, 2024, 04:45:22 PM »
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    • Quote from: Stubborn on May 27, 2024, 06:19:54 AM
    I have only skimmed through the last handful of posts but I'm wondering if you've ever been to a retreat? Not sure if that's something you would go for, but the SSPX is having some Ignatian retreats now if you're willing to travel a bit. I've never been, but those who've been to one or more rave about all the benefits, seems like something you might want to attend perhaps?
    I have not been on a retreat like that. I'm not opposed to one, by any means, but don't see how a retreat kept in silence and solitude would help me meet people. Maybe there is just something I'm missing. 
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #166 on: May 29, 2024, 05:21:02 PM »
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    but don't see how a retreat kept in silence and solitude would help me meet people. 
    You’re falsely assuming that “meeting people” is going to solve all your problems.  
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #167 on: May 29, 2024, 09:34:10 PM »
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    • Quote from: Bataar on May 29, 2024, 04:45:22 PM
    I have not been on a retreat like that. I'm not opposed to one, by any means, but don't see how a retreat kept in silence and solitude would help me meet people. Maybe there is just something I'm missing.
    Are you able to move to an area that has an active tradition Catholic community like St. Mary's, Kansas or Cinnanati, Ohio, or Ohmaha, Nebraska ?  Maybe an area with like minded people will help.

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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #168 on: May 30, 2024, 05:27:18 AM »
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    • Quote from: Bataar on May 29, 2024, 04:45:22 PM
    I have not been on a retreat like that. I'm not opposed to one, by any means, but don't see how a retreat kept in silence and solitude would help me meet people. Maybe there is just something I'm missing.
    Quote from: Pax Vobis on May 29, 2024, 05:21:02 PM
    You’re falsely assuming that “meeting people” is going to solve all your problems. 
    What Pax said is the jist of what my suggestion was about, but my suggestion was also about you getting divine assistance in your situation (tribulation?). From what I understand, Ignatian retreats are an excellent aid in all sorts of afflictions, which would include suffering from loneliness.
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #169 on: June 01, 2024, 08:28:27 AM »
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    • Quote from: Simeon on May 21, 2024, 09:50:38 AM

    "Me begins to think the problem is not "loneliness," but a life that is drifting along without a firm sense of purpose. Most assuredly, you are not the only one who suffers from this. It is the malaise of our age. But it must be recognized and combatted - or else prepare to suffer like this the rest of your life."
    This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #170 on: June 01, 2024, 01:47:05 PM »
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    • Quote from: BOTHY on June 01, 2024, 08:28:27 AM
    This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    This is true as well. My life does not seem to have a purpose. I'm unable to move forward in any way whether that be regarding making new friends, developing a romantic relationship, finding a career path, etc etc. No matter what I try in any of those areas just fails. I'm not suicidal by any means, but I feel like Im pretty much just waiting to die, which, with my luck means I'll outlive everyone in my family. 😜
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #171 on: June 01, 2024, 05:55:51 PM »
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    • Quote from: Bataar on June 01, 2024, 01:47:05 PM
    This is true as well. My life does not seem to have a purpose. I'm unable to move forward in any way whether that be regarding making new friends, developing a romantic relationship, finding a career path, etc etc. No matter what I try in any of those areas just fails. I'm not suicidal by any means, but I feel like Im pretty much just waiting to die, which, with my luck means I'll outlive everyone in my family. 😜
    Many of the Saints longed for death, as being alive meant they could sin and offend God. 
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #172 on: June 02, 2024, 05:58:30 PM »
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    • Quote from: Bataar on June 01, 2024, 01:47:05 PM
    This is true as well. My life does not seem to have a purpose. I'm unable to move forward in any way whether that be regarding making new friends, developing a romantic relationship, finding a career path, etc etc. No matter what I try in any of those areas just fails. I'm not suicidal by any means, but I feel like Im pretty much just waiting to die, which, with my luck means I'll outlive everyone in my family. 😜
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #173 on: June 02, 2024, 09:37:34 PM »
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    • Quote from: AnthonyPadua on June 01, 2024, 05:55:51 PM
    Many of the Saints longed for death, as being alive meant they could sin and offend God.
    Exactly!
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #174 on: June 04, 2024, 10:05:41 PM »
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #175 on: June 27, 2024, 10:55:22 AM »
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #176 on: June 27, 2024, 02:41:17 PM »
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    • Quote from: Bataar on May 21, 2024, 11:09:58 AM
    I would love to be married and have a family. It just doesn't seem to be a realistic possibility so I don't focus on it. Focusing on finding and making buddy level friends is nearly impossible in and of itself so hoping to make deep and meaningful friendships or the absolute best option, a holy and Catholic spouse seem just as realistic as hoping to win the lottery.

    My autism is a huge obstacle when it comes to anything social. My brain is wires backwards for lack of a better term. Most people get to know people by just talking to them. They can be with a group of complete strangers and just start talking to them because it is the act of the conversation itself that is important.

    I need to be able to get to know someone through repeated interactions with them to learn if they're someone I can have a conversation with. Put me in a room with a bunch of strangers and I'm lost. I don't have any reason to talk to one person over another person and since I don't know them, I have no idea what they would be interested in talking about. It's hard for me to stress how important this is, but when I talk to someone I don't know, the topic of the discussion is the most important thing. Obviously if the person is someone I do know and care about on some level, things are different as I actually do care about that person and want to know more about them.

    I'm also very purposeful. Everything I do has a purpose, even if it's something as simple as relieving boredom. I generally can't think of a reason to leave my house by myself so I just stay home. I know I won't meet anyone at my house, but if I can't think of anything to go do by myself, I'm at a dead end.

    I used to joke about finding the wonderful and seemingly mythical place known only as "Out There". I can't count the number of times I've heard, "You just need to get out there." I never could get a specific location or time from them. 😉

    The problem is you. It's been over a year since you initiated this thread. You're subtly blaming God for not giving you friends but you're really the problem. Sounds like you need a good beatin'. Knock that autism out of ya. Join a boxing gym and spar. You need to be tested in other ways than you've hitherto experienced. It'll give you some new outlook on life and, perhaps, alter your discriminatory and approbation processes on establishing friendships. You might even make friends at the boxing gym. 
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #177 on: August 02, 2024, 09:19:18 PM »
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    • How has the fishing been this year?
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #178 on: August 07, 2024, 02:23:23 PM »
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    • Quote from: St Giles on August 02, 2024, 09:19:18 PM
    How has the fishing been this year?
    It's been pretty good. Definitely a quality over quantity year. Not catching quite as many as previous years, but the ones I do catch are a little bigger. Good times. 
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    Re: Suffering from loneliness
    « Reply #179 on: August 07, 2024, 06:53:55 PM »
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    • What kinds? Do you prefer live bait?


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