Hi, 

I started a little project which is a Catholic dating site to help out anyone having difficulties finding a spouse. I originally made it to help a buddy of mine. I think it could be a great option for many out there, especially the younger gen that are more inclined to online environments. If you or anyone is interested please share it since everything relies on membership and participation. It's of course totally free to use. 

Uxorem.com 

Feel free to let me know if you have any questions about the site. 

Talk about making it look like Trads are out of date.

"Trad? Want to get married? I hope you like cosplaying that it's the Wild West!"

The images look like people from an occult.  Use images of real young people.  

Victorian/ western is cool..  rural people are usually happy and smiling. 

The images look like people from an occult.  Use images of real young people. 

Victorian/ western is cool..  rural people are usually happy and smiling.

Not necessarily occult, but the people do look rather morose and unhappy.

Honestly many on here are just so bitter.. Art whether used for Catholic ends doesn't have to be inextricably linked to the 1950s boomer aesthetic, or even the Renaissance. Ironically, the idea itself of gothic or morose complexions are even aligned with grand Catholic art of the past. Which painting of a saint has a big smile full of white teeth? The opposite really, from St. Francis of Assisi to St. Jerome you will find them morose, sad and serious in universally acclaimed paintings nobody would call occult. Them holding and contemplating death by holding a human skull is anything but happy go lucky. And I'm not even mentioning the gore or devilish depictions either.. 

I suggest you guys take a look at Caravaggio or Rembrandt. Many of their works are considered to be dark or gothic, I've personally seen paintings of St. Jerome used in horror games for that very reason. 

Also, the aesthetic I'm going for isn't even that novel. There's an old painting you all would know called American Gothic, it's essentially what I'm going for. There's a reason younger people find tradcats so out of touch. I've personally spoken to many guys wanting to convert or have recently converted that find Catholicism dull and entirely dominated by boomers. I'm trying to show people that it's not necessarily the case. 

It's one thing to say you subjectively don't like certain art or aesthetics, everyone is of course free to have their personal tastes, but to go around calling things you don't like occult or implying it's something illicit is just absurd. 

lol. Many of us here are generation x; not boomers.

We aren’t bitter.  We are trying to help you. 

In addition, some of the criteria seem as though they could be rather subjective:  effeminacy in men, combativeness in women.  Are you planning on spying in on everyone's conversations to detect such traits?  If I were signing up, I'd be wondering if you wouldn't be recording and spying on every communication.  Of course, then probably people would exchange contact information and continue communicating offline.  Are you going to spy on their activities outside the site also?  And then will you boot people from the site due to an unsubstantiated complaint:  "She was a feminist." (because she didn't agree with corporal punishment of wives by husbands?) or "He's effeminate." (because he didn't have super high T and was kind/polite).  There are a thousand ways your "rules" could go wrong.